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     I hope this communication finds you in good health and being blessed by the One and only God, Jesus Christ.

     This will be the last lesson we spend on the husband. After this we will begin addressing the wife. It may seem like we are taking a long time in each area, but I think it is best to be as detailed as possible within the framework of the internet.

     Let’s begin by understanding the importance of communicating with your wife. Listening is an art that many men have yet to learn. One reason for this is that men do not appreciate the wisdom, knowledge and understanding God has built into women. So men, when your wife shares what’s on her heart, listen. If she is opening up and sharing something that might have wounded her or difficulties that she is currently experiencing, understand she isn’t necessarily asking you for the answer. Many times our wives want us to be a sounding board for their thoughts. Be sensitive to recognize what she wants or, just ask her. One area where men are pretty much in the dark is the time of month when the wife has her period. Several days prior to the start of her period, she may experience symptoms associated with P.M.S. During this time when a woman’s body has a major physical change, it is important for you to understand that your words can easily hurt. Joking that might normally be received well may be misunderstood, causing hurt feelings. If this happens be quick to ask forgiveness.

     Be patient and don’t become easily frustrated with your wife. There is never a reason or excuse to hit her, never! Learn to say you’re sorry when you are in error. You don’t need to be right all the time. Being a man is evidenced by a willingness to admit when we’re wrong and then asking forgiveness. It is in your hands to stop the anger when strife or arguments happen.

     Men, it is your responsibility to lead your home in spiritual matters. Go to church. How can you love your wife as Christ loved the church if you don’t have a close and maturing relationship with God. Lead your home in prayer. Read the Bible with your wife this does not mean preach to her. Discuss the Word of God together, both sharing in the discussion. Make sure your family tithes. Don’t give the devil a right to devour your home.

     Be committed to your wife and your marriage. God gave Himself totally, so give yourself totally to your wife. The effort you invest is worth every minute of time and every dollar you spend. Romancing your wife is fun and rewarding. Just because you have been married a long time does not mean that she’s not interested. In fact, she is more interested in you romancing her than you will ever know. It says to her that you still find her attractive. It tells her that she is still worth the effort. It cries out loud that she is not taken for granted.

Here are some things you can do:

1) Date each other at least weekly. (Spend money on her.)

2) Plan a surprise date once a month.

3) Take her out often for meals, motels and rides.

4) Only have eyes for your wife. (Keep eye contact with her.)

5) Never leave your wife stranded.

6) Be a gentleman open doors.

7) Hold hands.

8) Learn good manners.

9) Remember special days. (anniversary, valentine’s day, birthdays)

10) Buy her gifts and give her your time.

11) Surprise her with gifts without it being a special occasion.

12) Send flowers when she is not expecting them.

13) Leave love notes around the house.

14) Write her love letters.

15) Phone your wife just to say you love her.

16) Accept her calls. Don't be too busy for her.

Remember, it is the wife who initiates 60% of all divorces in America. Tell and show your wife that you love her before someone else does. The Bible tells us that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. A good marriage does not happen by accident. It takes a committed effort by both parties, especially the husband. Gentlemen, if you are willing and if you will follow God’s plan found in His Word, the Bible, you will have a successful and joyful marriage.

Next lesson we examine "How To Be A Great Wife".

Until next time, God bless. Terry